PILLAR L · DATE PLANNER
Date Logistics Engine
Plan the night end to end — timing, logistics, and the checklist for what comes after.
- STAGES
- 4
- CHECK ITEMS
- 20
- CONVERSATION SEEDS
- 12
- TICKED
- 0on device
STAGE SELECT
Pick the stage, get the plan
Four stages, first coffee to a night in — each with the venue logic, the conversation seeds and the exit strategy that stage actually needs.
First Meet / Coffee
STAGE 1 PLAN
Specialty coffee shop / quiet café
Corner table, not facing door — less distraction
10-min walk from transit, well-lit route
Conversation Seeds
- 1.What's the best coffee/tea you've had in this city?
- 2.If you could teleport for lunch tomorrow, where?
- 3.Weekend plans — anything fun or purely rest?
Logistics & Exit
Pay casually ("I've got this — you get next?"). Walk her to transit/ride. Text "Home safe?" within 30 min.
10-MIN PRE-DATE CHECK
Tick what’s done before you leave
Five items per stage, counted as you go. The intimate stage opens with consent because everything after it depends on that answer.
Saved locally on this device only.
Nothing ticked yet
Work top to bottom — the whole point of the 10-minute version is that it fits between “I should get ready” and the door.Sources & evidence
- Planned Parenthood · The art of consent (FRIES)(opens in a new tab)
- Perel · Mating in Captivity
- Kerner · She Comes First
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